| Book Contents |
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| Deal With It ! : a whole new approach to your body, brain, and life as a gURL |
| Esther Drill |
| Pocket Books |
| 309 pages |
| Copyright 1999 |
| MCMLS Call No. YA – 305.235 - Dri |
| Library Catalog Summary: None given |
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| Library Catalog Subjects: Teenage girls- Life skills |
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A large portion of the book deals with sex instruction for girls. A
FCPS library catalog review says this book is the translation of a
website into print and "..a good deal of the text is made up of
outtakes from girls' online dialogues culled from the site.." The
review states the book is "happily nonphallocentric" and discusses
"topics and details that more conservative guides might skip." |
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The book describes oral sex, anal sex, group sex, masturbation,
orgasms, sex toys including dildos and vibrators, homosexuality,
bisexuality, and other sex topics. The book has specific instructions
for different sex acts along with cartoon images and "advice" from
girls taken from the website describing their own sexual experiences
and viewpoints. |
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The front cover has a girl in a flasher raincoat facing away from the
reader flashing. The next page has her flashing the reader in a bra,
underwear and boots. The back cover contains a plug for the book from
Francesca Block, an author of many controversial books, some of which
are in this excerpts section. Only a portion of the controversial
material in this book is excerpted due to its extensiveness. |
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“MASTURBATION playing with yourself jerking off whacking off spanking
the monkey jacking off jilling off buttering the biscuit So you get
turned on. What do you do about it? ..do it standing, sitting, or lying
down. ..use.. fingers outside… put.. fingers inside.. rub.. against a
pillow.. shower nozzle.. look at books or movies or magazines.. a
helpful way to get acquainted with your body… everyone is her own first
and most efficient sex partner.. no risk, no pressure. ..ultimate safe
sex. ..vibrator.. fingers in my vagina.. rub your clit with an ice
cube.. feels great afterward.. put your hands or a blanket.. between
your legs, squeeze.. rock.. apply pressure.. rub in a circle.. do it
hard and fast. ..Many people get turned on by watching other people
touch themselves. masturbating together is a fairly popular activity
among couples who have sex on a regular basis.. Some people don’t start
masturbating until much later in life.. whatever feels good to you is
the right thing to do.” |
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“ORGASM the big ‘O’ coming getting off getting your rocks off the
little death.. undeniably great.. pleasure center is the clitoris..
manipulating and stimulating.. sexual intercourse-inserting a penis..
moving it in and out-doesn’t pay much attention to the clitoris.” |
| - “My boyfriend wants to finger me,..” |
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“Hand job… Just squeeze and move up and down as steadily as possible…
usually when I give a hand job, it’s after we’ve been making out for a
while and we’re starting to take off each other’s clothes off.. seems
to drive him crazy.. when it comes to me giving him a hand job, he can
never get off.. he usually just stimulates himself by giving himself a
handjob.. when he is about to go, I.. take over..” |
| - “dry sex.. felt his penis through his pants..” |
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“going down on him giving a blow job fellatio oral sex on a guy:
Bringing a guy to climax using your mouth and tongue.. I try to look
into my boyfriend’s eyes when I’m sucking.. get him off faster.. lick
and suck his balls.. If my mouth gets tired I use my hands to jerk him
off.. until I can suck again.. make my mouth soft but tight..
Concentrate on the head.. Underneath the shaft is also a good place..
roll your tongue down the bottom of it. If it’s.. big one.. don’t try
to get the whole thing in your mouth.. might.. gag.. have fun and just
go with what seems right. ..literally sucked on his penis.. when you
‘suck’.. kinda put him in your mouth.. bob your head up and down
sliding your hand up and down his penis at the same time. ..think guys
like it better if you swallow, but if it grosses you.. move your mouth
away.. cover the head with your hand so he’s not squirting all over the
place. ..ain’t so bad. ..Wouldn’t put it on my cornflakes, but it
doesn’t taste too heinous!” |
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“eating out cunnilingus going down.. like fingering a girl.. just using
the tongue.. make a girl cum.. some guys just like eating girls.. he
knows I like it a lot..” Discussion on how condoms, some flavored like
touch o’ mint, or dental dams are required to be totally safe. “69 is
simultaneous oral sex.. Vaginal fluids are meant to be aphrodisiacs.
That’s why people get off on going down on girls: the smell, the
taste,..” |
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“Vaginal sex… hiding the salami.. screwing laying.. fucking.. doing the
nasty.. bumping uglies.. penis-vagina penetration is just one part of
sex.. not necessarily the best part” stick figures illustrating boy on
top, girl on top and boy behind girl positions “known as doggie style”
a discussion of how it is important to be well lubricated and
lubricants |
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“Anal sex: penetration of the anus by a penis or other stuff, such as
fingers.. many people find.. this.. pleasurable.. should involve
substantial lubrication |
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Using objects: “Body massagers.. Dildos.. often.. resemble a penis.
Vibrators.. designed for penetration, others for external use.
Anything, as long as it’s clean, unbreakable, and has no sharp edges,
is a fair game as a sex toy” |
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“role playing… Tying each other up (bondage).. Sadomasochism
(S&M).. deliberately inflicts pain.. kind of power role-playing.
These games can be fun to experiment with.. Multiple partners Three-way
sex.. An orgy or group sex..” |
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| - Lists web resources: All About Sex, The Go Ask Alice Web site, and the Sex, Etc. site |
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Recommendation for the “first time”: ..request he perform oral sex on
you first. ..lubricates things up.. condoms.. lubricated kind.” |
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A section on condoms with lots of cartoon condoms with smiley faces.
Illustrations of rolling the condom on the erect penis. Instructions on
putting on, pulling out, taking off, flavored, ringed, use of condoms,
dental dams, or nonmicrowaveable plastic kitchen wrap for oral sex,
female condoms, emergency contraception, etc. |
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“..risky behavior… activities that carry extremely low or no risk are
fun too: masturbating,.. dry humping..” A risk table for various sexual
activity is presented. “vaginal intercourse” and “anal sex” are
presented as risky, equally risky. |
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“Sexual preference is a continuum.. not.. question of being gay or
straight.. continuum.. many people fall in between.. people move around
on this continuum over time. Sexuality is constantly evolving-one of
its many joys… Boys turn me on, but sometimes I dream about girls.
..I’m attracted to both.. Who knows?.. is fine and normal to be
confused about your sexuality.. QUEER is *NOT* SOMETHING YOU CHOOSE TO
BE. I was born it… Animal sexuality.. bonobos have sex often and in all
different combinations: female-male, male-male, female-female. Female
bonobos [apes] often mount each other.. rub their clitorises together..
[they] use sex as a way to resolve tension.. the ‘make love, not war’
primates” |
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Section on “How do 2 girls have sex… one of the cool things about being
with girls is that you know what it feels like when you touch them…
oral sex, dental dams.. MICROWAVABLE plastic wrap..” |
| - “..your sexuality is your own work in progress,..” |
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“HOMOPHOBIA.. gay teenagers actually account for 1/3 of all teen
suicides. ..Who created us?? GOD!!! If he didn’t want us to be this
way, then why did he create us this way??? Answer that!” |
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“COMING OUT.. likely to run into some homophobia.. gurrrl luv = good
luv!.. GIRLS loving GURLS KICKS BUTT so rock on chics-you all rule..
grrrls like grrrls & its wonderful.. “ |
| - Section on “Where to meet other girls” |
| - Section on “Ejaculation blowing your wad shooting your load cuming climax” |
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Section on “MALE MASTURBATION jack off, pull your pud, spank the
monkey, jerk off, beat your meat, beat off.. several popular
techniques.. holding the penis shaft with one hand and rhythmically
pulling up and down.. stroking the head, building momentum until climax
and ejaculation. ..rub against something, the bed or another inanimate
object” |
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Section on “parents and sexuality.. heard weird noises.. from my mom’s
room.. found her masturbating.. ran out.. I mean I masturbate too,
but.. I’m cool with it, but.. read my mom’s email.. to.. dad.. lube up
his hard drive.” |
| - “The struggle for gay rights is most strongly opposed by homophobic religious conservatives,..” |
